A woman reviews her experiences dating men in the Bay Area, analyzing how society's failure to provide clear paths to manhood has created various categories of lost men, and proposes solutions to help future generations. Longer summary

This review explores the state of dating men in the Bay Area, focusing on the broader societal issues that have left many men feeling lost and without purpose. The author, a woman who often finds herself in pseudo-therapy sessions during dates, categorizes men into several types of 'lostness': The Man Who Is Not (depressed and without identity), The Man With a Plan (following society's checklist without self-discovery), The Man Who Provides (obsessed with success), The Man Who Opts Out (given up on dating), and The Man Who Becomes a Beast (turned to toxic masculinity). She contrasts these with The Man Who Is Whole, who has found his authentic identity and purpose. The post ends with suggestions for crafting a better societal approach to masculinity. Shorter summary